Bad guy types and why they are every princess' guilty pleasure pt 4

Welcome again, dear reader to another blog post in this series. This is  Part 4! Thank you all who have acknowledged the previous blogs, especially those of you who have made the sacrifice of your time to give me your feedback either verbally or by text. According to the blog stats part 3 was viewed 25 times yesterday and the part 2 viewed 49 times till date. Thank you all for viewing or recommending to others and please can I reassure you that this is not a post about my daughter who is not even 14!

Neither is it a comment about her mum nor about me !!the Daddy referred to in the previous parts is nothing like me😀😀!! I will not give you any assurances about the Daddy in this segment. I will let you make that decision👍🏿😁. So please read on!

The imagery I use quite frequently is what we call a 'Hyperbole' in English literature. If you do a google search, 'it is a figure of speech that uses extreme exaggeration to make a point or show emphasis. It is the opposite of understatement.' I don't mean to exaggerate the scenarios. But I have added quite a bit to the storyline in order to highlight certain areas of interest. Please bear with me.

 I'd also like to use this opportunity to clear the air about every 17 year old teenage age boy you know in your neighbourhood, in church youth group, after school club etc. Of course they are not psycho! 😂😂That is not what I am suggesting! Neither am I suggesting they undergo a polygraph test (to determine if they are lying) each time they say hi to your underage teenage daughter! So in this segment I am a bit more easy on the teenage boy. He is not so villainous but heck there is another teenager! Daddy's little girl so you can count on the teen hormonal changes to keep the drama going!! Whoosh😀😀!! Glad I got that off my chest!

So now let's have some fun with some more hyperbole!😜Let's  see what our teenagers get up to with all their hormones raging in cyclones😂😂 and see how daddy and mummy handle another very tricky  situation, shall we?🤔🤔

First to reintroduce  you to our 17 year old teenage boy who is on course to becoming  the first boyfriend(FBF) of our 15 year old  Daddy little girl(DLG)!DLG is transitioning into puberty and has been experiencing a lot of physiological and hormonal changes that goes with it. What does it mean?

 There is an article on 'WebMD' a USA website that I often use in my Clinical Training and online inforsearch. Please follow the link below for some really useful pointers to what some of the physiological and hormonal changes our teenage daughters, nieces or members of our family or friends of family may be experiencing :

https://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/daughter-15-milestones.

In the this web post the following is highlighted : 'Teens ages 15-19 have higher rates of death than younger children. Top causes are vehicle crashes, murder, and suicide. As your daughter responsible for her own safety, these rules can help keep her safe:
@Always wear a seatbelt and never use a cellphone while driving.
@Wear safety gear when on a bike, rollerblades or skateboard.
@Be careful online and using social media.
@Follow family rules, and the law around alcohol and drug use.
@Understand what can happen if you are sexually active(talk to your daughter about pregnancy, diseases, and changes in how she might feel about herself) In case my daughter reads this obviously we would rather our children come to speak to us whenever they are in trouble than to hide from us, because our love is unconditional. But then this is what this blog is about, that prevention is better than cure!

This dear reader, is the perfect opportunity to make a re-entry into the hormonal fantasy land of our 15 year old puberty transitioning DLG, and our 17 year old bad guy type FBF of DLG!!! Got it?😁👍🏿👍🏿. By the way FBF happens to be breathtakingly
good looking in DLG's(Daddy's Little Girl's)eyes! Her mum thinks he will make really goidlooking  future Son-in-law and  future father of some real 'glam' looking grandchildren😍😍😍.

But Daddy wants him a thousand miles away from his daughter!!!In Part 3, I highlighted that the battle lines have been drawn and it really looks like Daddy is facing a loosing battle!!Because mummy and his little girl, especially his little girl don't see her FBF as a threat. So what was this daddy to do? Watch helplessly as he looses influence over his daughter to a juvenile, throw a temper tauntrum or go for the EXECUTIVE 💪💪option!!👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿He chooses to RAISE HIS GAME!!!If you are in touch with any Daddies of teenagers the part that I am about to share is worth reading to them👍👍

Daddy decides to invite his daughter's FBF to join them for a family evening in their home. They were going to be watch a movie as a family, then hang out together.All four of them: Daddy, Mummy, their Son who is 19  and DLG. He thought FBF might be interested in joining them.

When DLG called her FBF, to say her daddy was on the phone, he was ready, defensive expecting to hear something really negative! Well something like, he was not to be seen near the man's daughter again, which would push him to want to rebel and instigate DLG to join in the rebellion. That will be an important Second Step in his book of conquering a 15 year old girl. Remember in Part 3 he had already implement the first step and exposed the emotional fault lines in the family, which forced the family to take sides,

He expected a showdown with this dad any moment and he knew who would outwit the other! FBF was prepared for the kind of showdown that will reduce another Daddy's influence over his 15 year old. He had handled it before with his very first girl friend's dad! He was only 12 then, but big for his age... looking more like a 16 year old at the time.  His girlfriend was an older girl, in fact 15. When her dad warned him off her. But he stuck stubbornly to his guns until his first girlfriend's dad withdrew her privelege, grounded her completely!

Then in true chivalry fashion, he the 12 year old boyfriend defied dad of his first girlfriend's , continued to sneak messages to her through another older girl. Girls would do most favours for him because they found him sooo sweet when he chose to be... and of course good looking. They also usually found him an object for their teenagr girl crush. The 'contraband' exchange of messages between his 12 year old self and his 15 year old first girlfriend came to an abrupt end one summer when her family had to move away. He soon moved on to girlfriend no 2.

 Now 5 years later, at age 17, he had quite a bad reputation! He had already 'experienced' and abandoned six  other daddy's girls as girlfriends!! Five of these girls developed significant emotional problems as a result of the stress from being his girlfriend.

He has boasted about his conquest of them to his peers. As Part of his 'trophy' trove he had perfected the art of influencing teenage girls, especially 15 year old girls to yield to his time tested charms!

So he had a plan of action for adding this
Daddy's Little Girl to his trophy and so far it appeared  things were working out smoothly until this unexpected phone call inviting him to spend an evening with his girlfriend's family.

Initially this Bad Guy type was caught off guard and hesitated!!He had not anticipated the invite, he was nervous all of a sudden! What was the daddy playing at? He had a quick idea and decided to play the obedient grandson to his grandma whom he lived with. So he informed his girlfriend's  dad that he needed to check this out with his grandma. Obviously he did not want to say  he needed to ask 'permission' from his grandma in case this daddy decided he was accountable to a guardian.Girlfriend's Daddy seemed surprised and asked what about his parents to which he replied that they had travelled abroad hence living with his grandma. Daddy decided to phone later to hear what the response was. He also said he was happy to reassure his grandma that hie will not be late in returning home.That affected.

It was the first time any of the daddy's he had had an encounter with,  had shown they cared. Well, to cut a long story short FBF confirmed he would be happy to come and had a really wonderful evening with his girl friend's family.

When the evening was over Daddy, Mummy and their Son had enjoyed his company too. They got to hear his story which was quite a sad one.Truth is, his parents were abroad but not working. It was a bit more complex than that. All the family he really had was grandma. The only one who wasn't impressed was Daddy's Little Girl.

She had been drawn to the rebellious streak in her boyfriend! Now it appeared her daddy had ruined it all! She stormed out to her bedroom, refusing to acknowledge her boyfriend with a goodbye!! However her boyfriend had had  a good evening, really enjoyed the company of her family, thanked daddy and mummy several times for inviting him and made the decision he was going to become a genuinely friend of the family and not just a boyfriend of their 15 year old.
 Daddy's Little Girl was thinking....puzzled!! What is it with boys?. She hoped his bad guy type swag which she found irresistible would return(to be continued).