Interlude before conclusion: Why Bad Guy Types and every princess' guilty pleasure.

Welcome to the Interlude before conclusion of my current series of blog posts.This series has been on why 'Bad guy types are every princess' guilty pleasure'? Essentially I have been highlighting the fact that even a girl who may have had a very sheltered upbringing and may be considered the quintessential 'Daddy's Little Girl ',  can find herself drawn to risqué      personality types. In a teenage boy! In other words she becomes infatuated with a teenage boy that is essentially a 'rulebreaker' within her community! 

This phenomenon has puzzled parents, especially Daddies for generations now!!They have wondered about the charisma such boys appear to have and tried to understand what is behind their appeal to teenage girls? 

What I have been stating are my own perspectives on this. Just as I have stressed in my previous blog, this isn't a comment about teenage boys in general. The dynamics could be experienced in a role reversal whereby the one who is exhibiting such traits are girls!! In other words it is possible to have a case of  a 'bad gal type. 'However, I am not going to delve into that yet. This will require a bit more research on my part and then perhaps be featured in a subsequent blog.

Many teenage boys want to understand  what makes a girl 'tick '. They are curious to the point of dedication! As a result they invest a considerable amount of their time and energy  pursuing girls who are their peers. Such girls also, are experiencing  changes within their bodies as part of a developmental milestone. They are transitioning via puberty into adulthood. Although they are still teenagers. But until full adulthood in their twenties, girls 
continue to undergo these physiological changes which by the way are in may instances  overwhelming!

This is because they are navigating 'hormonal changes' without the kind of hindsight resourced by any precedent. An adult on the other hand would have had the some life experiences and even painful mistakes they have made which they can fall back on to help inform their decisions!Teenage girls on the other hand have not got many tools at their disposal whilst attempting to 'process' for themselves all that is happening in their own bodies. They want to understand  themselves better through exploring their own feelings about boys! Including trying to gain insights into why they appear to have an instant connection 'chemistry' with certain boy types and not others. 

Daddies, this is what happens to your daughter at puberty! The presence of boys, which may not have been something that she cared much about previously all of a suddenl becomes a pressing headline event ! Overnight, boys become such a big deal! Your daughter is suddenly impacted by an awareness about boys!The effect on her is a degree of curiousity almost akin to just discovering a new species! Only this new species consists of members of a gender opposite to her! The impact of this discovery on her is cataclysmic!!! As if this is not enough it occurs on a daily basis, and the thought of boys constantly dominates her thinking!She daydreams her teenage life from one rollercoaster ride to the next one!!! So what are these rides like!!

 A sleeping tigress of passion is being aroused inside her. Inside your teenage daughter!!It doesn't feel like a tigress at first. Because this passion whenever it is stirred  in her makes the teenage girl feel the most thrilling emotional and sensory experience she has ever felt!! Welcoming your teenager to a myriad world of hormones!!! 

More about that in a moment! Imagine the Daddy of a teenage daughter trying to make a connection with the fast evolving young individual she is fast becoming! This individual  may have once been content expressing her identity mainly as Daddy's little girl! He has enjoyed this phase in which he had been the focus of her attention.He observes that she no longer responds the way she previously did (as a little girl) to being called by affectionate names. This young person now wants Daddy to 'stop treating her as a little girl' and is articulating that she no longer feels when he  refers to her affectionately as 'Daddy's little girl'  it is a compliment.

She wants to be recognised as a young adult!!! Her Daddy is thinking: 'Not yet Sixteen and a young adults?' But his daughter wants to be accepted by her peer group and noticed by boys who are part of that group! They are unlikely to be impressed with her if they think  she is still her Daddy's little girl! This is perfectly logical! But her Daddy is beginning to 'panic.' To him this feels like.....no!!!This spells t-r-o-u-b-l-e!!!TROUBLE!TROUBLE!TROUBLE! He gets slightly illogical in thinking  'all boys will be boys' right? She did not use to be interested in boys but now she 'idolises' teenage boys in pop culture. She dreams is constantly dreaming about boys!That the one she has a crush on will oneday notice her. She daydreams for hours endlessly and sets up an imaginary camp in her own fantasy world!



WHO AM I? A CONSTANT QUEST EVERY TEENAGER HAS TO PURSUE!

Meanwhile your teenage daughter wants and needs to be taken seriously because she is experiencing emotions, a wealth of them that she feels overwhelmed by. She is also struggling with being compliant with domestic rule keeping within the home environment.Especially the very rules which had previously not been an issue! Her questioning of nearly everything and constant push back is her attempt to figure out who she is, part of attaining that is to carve out her own identity! Daddy, give her space, give her time but be very lovingly close by and accesible to rescue her as she asserts herself and her emerging identity is unveiled.



 I  now invite you to join me in looking at the world through the imaginary eyes of our 15 year old who happens to be the protogonist of our blog. , A protagonist is ' the leading character or one of the major characters in a play, film, novel, etc.'. Secondly it is 'an adovate or champion of a particular cause or idea'. 

This is where I would like you who are reading this to try getting the attention of any daddy's who are in the 'vicinity' where you are reaing this! E-s-p-e-c-i-a-l-l-y if that daddy has a teenage daughter. The idea which I am advocating in these series of blogs is that however a Daddy may love his daughter and however unconditional that love may be, the relationship they have with their daughter will be tested!!!

CHANGED, CHOKED OR CHARGED!

You relationship with your daughter will either be changed, choked or be charged once she is through her puberty years! If it is changed then there is work to be done to bring it back to a functioning level but the light may be dimned but it has not been put out. If it is choked then there is a very serious breakdown in communication and your relationship has become dysfunctional! There are certain Dad and daughter relationships which actually become 'charged' in other words become wonderfully transformed within the light of those teenage years. The testing of this bond is not something to be scared of, Daddy!! But you can employ different tools in your expanding tool kit to skillfully diffuse the situation. I will like to refer to my previous blog(part 3 in this series). 

What is it about teenage girls, which makes them risk so much in order to pursue the affection that they feel can be received from a boy or in some cases an older man? Even most importantly 'why are they so drawn to the bad boy type?' Why do they risk their potential status and all the benefits which come with not rebelling and just remaining the much beloved princess within a daddy's life? Even more interstingly why do they stick to the opposite of the type of guys that their daddy recommends? This ends the Interluds.

Bad guy types and why they are every princess' guilty pleasure pt 4

Welcome again, dear reader to another blog post in this series. This is  Part 4! Thank you all who have acknowledged the previous blogs, especially those of you who have made the sacrifice of your time to give me your feedback either verbally or by text. According to the blog stats part 3 was viewed 25 times yesterday and the part 2 viewed 49 times till date. Thank you all for viewing or recommending to others and please can I reassure you that this is not a post about my daughter who is not even 14!

Neither is it a comment about her mum nor about me !!the Daddy referred to in the previous parts is nothing like me😀😀!! I will not give you any assurances about the Daddy in this segment. I will let you make that decision👍🏿😁. So please read on!

The imagery I use quite frequently is what we call a 'Hyperbole' in English literature. If you do a google search, 'it is a figure of speech that uses extreme exaggeration to make a point or show emphasis. It is the opposite of understatement.' I don't mean to exaggerate the scenarios. But I have added quite a bit to the storyline in order to highlight certain areas of interest. Please bear with me.

 I'd also like to use this opportunity to clear the air about every 17 year old teenage age boy you know in your neighbourhood, in church youth group, after school club etc. Of course they are not psycho! 😂😂That is not what I am suggesting! Neither am I suggesting they undergo a polygraph test (to determine if they are lying) each time they say hi to your underage teenage daughter! So in this segment I am a bit more easy on the teenage boy. He is not so villainous but heck there is another teenager! Daddy's little girl so you can count on the teen hormonal changes to keep the drama going!! Whoosh😀😀!! Glad I got that off my chest!

So now let's have some fun with some more hyperbole!😜Let's  see what our teenagers get up to with all their hormones raging in cyclones😂😂 and see how daddy and mummy handle another very tricky  situation, shall we?🤔🤔

First to reintroduce  you to our 17 year old teenage boy who is on course to becoming  the first boyfriend(FBF) of our 15 year old  Daddy little girl(DLG)!DLG is transitioning into puberty and has been experiencing a lot of physiological and hormonal changes that goes with it. What does it mean?

 There is an article on 'WebMD' a USA website that I often use in my Clinical Training and online inforsearch. Please follow the link below for some really useful pointers to what some of the physiological and hormonal changes our teenage daughters, nieces or members of our family or friends of family may be experiencing :

https://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/daughter-15-milestones.

In the this web post the following is highlighted : 'Teens ages 15-19 have higher rates of death than younger children. Top causes are vehicle crashes, murder, and suicide. As your daughter responsible for her own safety, these rules can help keep her safe:
@Always wear a seatbelt and never use a cellphone while driving.
@Wear safety gear when on a bike, rollerblades or skateboard.
@Be careful online and using social media.
@Follow family rules, and the law around alcohol and drug use.
@Understand what can happen if you are sexually active(talk to your daughter about pregnancy, diseases, and changes in how she might feel about herself) In case my daughter reads this obviously we would rather our children come to speak to us whenever they are in trouble than to hide from us, because our love is unconditional. But then this is what this blog is about, that prevention is better than cure!

This dear reader, is the perfect opportunity to make a re-entry into the hormonal fantasy land of our 15 year old puberty transitioning DLG, and our 17 year old bad guy type FBF of DLG!!! Got it?😁👍🏿👍🏿. By the way FBF happens to be breathtakingly
good looking in DLG's(Daddy's Little Girl's)eyes! Her mum thinks he will make really goidlooking  future Son-in-law and  future father of some real 'glam' looking grandchildren😍😍😍.

But Daddy wants him a thousand miles away from his daughter!!!In Part 3, I highlighted that the battle lines have been drawn and it really looks like Daddy is facing a loosing battle!!Because mummy and his little girl, especially his little girl don't see her FBF as a threat. So what was this daddy to do? Watch helplessly as he looses influence over his daughter to a juvenile, throw a temper tauntrum or go for the EXECUTIVE 💪💪option!!👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿He chooses to RAISE HIS GAME!!!If you are in touch with any Daddies of teenagers the part that I am about to share is worth reading to them👍👍

Daddy decides to invite his daughter's FBF to join them for a family evening in their home. They were going to be watch a movie as a family, then hang out together.All four of them: Daddy, Mummy, their Son who is 19  and DLG. He thought FBF might be interested in joining them.

When DLG called her FBF, to say her daddy was on the phone, he was ready, defensive expecting to hear something really negative! Well something like, he was not to be seen near the man's daughter again, which would push him to want to rebel and instigate DLG to join in the rebellion. That will be an important Second Step in his book of conquering a 15 year old girl. Remember in Part 3 he had already implement the first step and exposed the emotional fault lines in the family, which forced the family to take sides,

He expected a showdown with this dad any moment and he knew who would outwit the other! FBF was prepared for the kind of showdown that will reduce another Daddy's influence over his 15 year old. He had handled it before with his very first girl friend's dad! He was only 12 then, but big for his age... looking more like a 16 year old at the time.  His girlfriend was an older girl, in fact 15. When her dad warned him off her. But he stuck stubbornly to his guns until his first girlfriend's dad withdrew her privelege, grounded her completely!

Then in true chivalry fashion, he the 12 year old boyfriend defied dad of his first girlfriend's , continued to sneak messages to her through another older girl. Girls would do most favours for him because they found him sooo sweet when he chose to be... and of course good looking. They also usually found him an object for their teenagr girl crush. The 'contraband' exchange of messages between his 12 year old self and his 15 year old first girlfriend came to an abrupt end one summer when her family had to move away. He soon moved on to girlfriend no 2.

 Now 5 years later, at age 17, he had quite a bad reputation! He had already 'experienced' and abandoned six  other daddy's girls as girlfriends!! Five of these girls developed significant emotional problems as a result of the stress from being his girlfriend.

He has boasted about his conquest of them to his peers. As Part of his 'trophy' trove he had perfected the art of influencing teenage girls, especially 15 year old girls to yield to his time tested charms!

So he had a plan of action for adding this
Daddy's Little Girl to his trophy and so far it appeared  things were working out smoothly until this unexpected phone call inviting him to spend an evening with his girlfriend's family.

Initially this Bad Guy type was caught off guard and hesitated!!He had not anticipated the invite, he was nervous all of a sudden! What was the daddy playing at? He had a quick idea and decided to play the obedient grandson to his grandma whom he lived with. So he informed his girlfriend's  dad that he needed to check this out with his grandma. Obviously he did not want to say  he needed to ask 'permission' from his grandma in case this daddy decided he was accountable to a guardian.Girlfriend's Daddy seemed surprised and asked what about his parents to which he replied that they had travelled abroad hence living with his grandma. Daddy decided to phone later to hear what the response was. He also said he was happy to reassure his grandma that hie will not be late in returning home.That affected.

It was the first time any of the daddy's he had had an encounter with,  had shown they cared. Well, to cut a long story short FBF confirmed he would be happy to come and had a really wonderful evening with his girl friend's family.

When the evening was over Daddy, Mummy and their Son had enjoyed his company too. They got to hear his story which was quite a sad one.Truth is, his parents were abroad but not working. It was a bit more complex than that. All the family he really had was grandma. The only one who wasn't impressed was Daddy's Little Girl.

She had been drawn to the rebellious streak in her boyfriend! Now it appeared her daddy had ruined it all! She stormed out to her bedroom, refusing to acknowledge her boyfriend with a goodbye!! However her boyfriend had had  a good evening, really enjoyed the company of her family, thanked daddy and mummy several times for inviting him and made the decision he was going to become a genuinely friend of the family and not just a boyfriend of their 15 year old.
 Daddy's Little Girl was thinking....puzzled!! What is it with boys?. She hoped his bad guy type swag which she found irresistible would return(to be continued).

Bad Guy types and Why they are every princess' guilty pleasure Part 3

Bad guy types are the villain of my blog. In a lot of Religious literature the bad guy types are almost always attributed to female characters. They are the seductress, the adultress who are nearly always portrayed as seeking to tear down a family with scandal. The susceptible family member is often a male figure, in most cases the dad. He finds the charms of the seductress  irresistible yields to illicit pleasure and as a result gets blackmailed. His family is ripped apart by a scandal that they may spend the rest of their lives trying to numb the pain of their loss- the dream of their once cherished  family life.
 This is the scandal we have come to accept in society, the one most likely to happen!!

Therefore, a mother's radar is highly attuned to detecting the revealingly dressed young attractive au pair;the miniskirted housekeeper; the female secretary of her husband! If her husband works late she has to be mindful of the danger..... is perhaps the personal assistant is out to 'steal' her husband!! So a mother updates her surveillance technology through a trusted network of informants! Armed with the most
precinct iphone technology!Security is the watchword!!A gal has got to watch out for those lipstick-@ted predators otherwise know as homebreakers or marriage terminators👍🏿😁! True true every home has issues!

But there is another individual or human species😁who is even more smart, streetwise and who has succeeded again and again in using a very seasoned and age old playbook to outwit otherwise unsuspecting families!! These has been going on for generations. This individual the villain of my blog. I am referring to the bad guy type and he is nearly always male, and he has one mission, his target is the vulnerable daddy's girl who is it transitioning into puberty. To many of you readers who dwell on planet venus, he is harmless.
But anyone who has ever been on planet mars knows he has been devastatingly effective in his adventures.

He resides in nearly every community, he may be a classmate or an older schoolmate of your daughter. Occasionally he is younger but wherever he may be located, because of his youth, very often innocent good looks, he escapes most mummy's radar.

Unlike the romantically obsessed and erring personal Assistant, who makes her interest in the husband of another woman so obvious, bad guy types are ever so respectful of their girl friend's (actually potential victim) mummy, they look decent enough and know how to warm her heart with practiced flattery!

But daddy is suspicious as he should be with anyone, who is that fixated on his little girl! Why not?You see Daddy knows a thing or two about bad guy types! Because he comes from the planet Mars where they are generated!

So let's get the context right! Daddy has no evidence that this juvenile, 17 year old who hangs around his 15 year old 'puberty transitioning' daughter would end up a typical bad guy type! But he is suspicious?Yesss!!!He has to be protective enough until a young chap wins his trust with his daughter!So is it normal that he is suspicious of nearly every guy he hasn't met before? Not unusual!! !!The suspicion is based on one criteria: provided a guy hangs out with his daughter!
Why?Because Daddy has learnt very key 'forensic' ' investigative' techniques to help him detect if  his daughters' friends will turn out being a self fulfilling prophecy....confirming his worse nightmares so far as his daughter is concerned! Daddy begins his interrogation of the young chap to determine what his intentions are.

But hold on! Mummy  thinks he is overreacting and this young chap is so sweeeeet!!! Because mummy does not think that this chap  fits the bill of a potential threat. First of all he is male and not like that miniskirted female secretary working with day;he is only 17, polite and she already thinks he is potentially most mother's dream of a friend to her daughter.

He is a bit rough at the edges, she may have heard rumours in the neighbourhood that he has a violent temper, but heck! Which 17 year old doesn't! Besides Mummy knows her daughter is very sensible and can handle herself well. But Mummy fails to realise her daughter is already so smitten with 'young gorgeous 17 year old esquire' !

AND her daughter (Daddy's little girl) could not agree more wholeheartedly!!!She is convinced she is able to assume responsibilty for herself when she is alone with him!!!Code for implying my love for my friend will fix everything!!!E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G!But Daddy wants to know how she will respond if a guy attempts to force kiss her! Mummy thinks Daddy needs to 'chill' a bit and not raise his Blood Pressure ,wirry over nothing! He needs to t-r-u-s-t their daughter to be sensible.

Daddy is not sure a 15 year old girl and a 17 year old boy ought to be left alone without supervision! But mummy is getting irate with the backwards and forwards and so cslls for silence.

 She feels her daddy is soooo wrong about her booooooyyyyy friend!!. Because just gazing into his eyes makes her go giddyyyyy with euphoric teenage girl crush!!!! 'Aaawww mummy can i hang around with him a bit longer?' Mummy says sure! Daddy says only if I can come with you!
Mummy shoots a glaring look at Daddy: 'Stop being childish about this. Your daughter is growing she is not your little girl anymore!' Daddy backs down!So the battle lines are drawn!
This Bad guy type has already won his first ally: Mummy! He has also gained access to his captive, a very naive physiologically maturing young girl whose identity used to be mainly as her Daddy's little girl.

My comnents:
Folks, my comments here are not going to be brief😁!So be forewarned! There is quite a bit that has just occurred with the above family episode involving the drawing of the battle lines and taking of sides! Remember Mummy has already decided that Daddy's fears are quite unfounded, but Daddy has 'resheath' his sword symbolically speaking , however he still distrust his daughter's  17 year old male friend.
I am going to give you an insight into his thinking!

Step 1 In the Bad Guys well practiced playbook he gains access into the inner circle of a family. He does so via the weakest link and he plays nice to the unsuspecting parent. Because every family has an issue, his engagement with them highlights whatever conflicts are existing in the family 'emotional fault' lines.🎯🎯

After gaining the trust of one parent....and it is usually the parent of the opposite gender to themselves the bad guy type executes the strategy of  turning members of the family against each other. So am I suggesting this bad guy type coukd be female? Occasionally yes!!But a female bad guy type of person rarely resorts to the approaches I am recounting as she has an arsenal full of strategy to employ! 🤣Now that is quite above my paygrade until I have done a bit more research😂😂👍🏿👍🏿

But his real bif is with Daddy on this occasion!Because Daddy is the promoter of everything which serves as a resistance to his plan.....may I say his incendiary plan of total mind cond control of his 15 year old girlfriend.

So long as she is allowed to continue in the  'illusion' that she is special or beloved of her parents, or consider she is her daddy's precious daughter who is worth the sacrifice of another man, the bad guy type will be unsuccessful in his quest over her!
SO LADIES ARM YOURSELF WITH SELFWORTH IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN! DO NOT GO SOLELY TO THEM FOR THE SELF WORTH YOU ARE LACKING!!

Ladies, if you believe you are special and of value, then a guy knows he needs to raise his game in order to remain in a relationship with you. But these bad guy types are not coming to invest in you. Their mindset is to rob you ultimately of your crown jewels! In order to be successful in that quest they need to strip you of every sense of worth and value. Because what he is attempting to accomplish is the antithesis of all that is special about you(to be continued)

Bad Guy types and why they are every Princess' Guilty Pleasure Part 2

Years have gone by and Daddy's little girl has continued her graceful evolvement from one 12 month season to the next. Her maturity, her increased self awareness obvious for all to see. Mummy has certainly noticed that their 'little girl' is no longer that much of a little girl. Even the older boys in their community have began to notice her, especially her physiological development.  They are already beginning to think hormonal thoughts upon setting their gaze on her. The so called Daddy's girl is approaching age 15. But in Daddy's eyes she will ALWAYS be her little girl!

When he calls her by his favourite affectionate names for her it is so sweet! But these are the same names he has called her since she was age 4. She is smart enough to observe that her Daddy has remained stuck in her pre adolescent years so far as reading her is concerned! So she protests in saying I am no longer a little girl, to which his response is nearly always 'yes I know and acknowledge that.....but to your daddy you will always be my little girl'. So Daddy continues to address her with affectionate sweet nothings as his little girl rushes through puberty, with her interest in a different kind of world she is becoming more aware of ! This world is the world of boys, and potentially men. This is the world she knows her Daddy has been a part of all his life. Her curiosity is constantly being aroused to this world and sometimes this appears all consuming to her 15 year old self!

She wants answers to her questions, about why she feels a certain way around some boys?

She wants to understand the rush of excitement she feels when she is around some boys and even older guys? Why she has her personal.....ohh really private dreams🙄🙄 about getting to know.....just a bit more ....pleeeeeeese......about this particular boy in her school!!😴🤔Why she has a crush  on some boy types, even total strangers she has never met and may never meet because they
are only TV characters? Yet she is drawn to watch this particular movie again and again, not because of the storyline, as daddy boringly thinks but because she has a crush on the main character, a boy
who is about her age. Slowly.....gradually......and then quickly.....she is fast becoming aware of this passion inside her which is becoming easily aroused. 

She has questions. Dozens of them! Even more questions stir up in her watching certain movies:
 When watching rom com types, after sneaking on Netflix to watch those in the 15  plus and even 18 plus age category, the arousal and excitement carries into her sleep.
On Some days she can hardly focus on her school work! Oh how boring school work is! Except for those class sessions where she is involved in group work sessions with that cute boy who 'literally' exudes l-o-v-e and at times a sense of p-a-s-s-i-o-n in her. All she wants to do is read read and devour romantic story lines. Chick flicks of a older category. Because she has questions, endless questions and she wants to discover about this fascinating world of boys and men!

But ohh how naive of this daddy !! He completely misses the glaring signs! The clearest indicators highlighting the developmental changes in his puberty transitioning 'little girl' ! He is unaware of her need of him more than ever! The need to help steer her through this turbulent phase of her life!

To say his response to a maturing teen is inadequate would be the understatement of the century!Truth is, if Daddy perceives his 15 year old as his 'eternal sweet little girl'  then his responses to her questions will be as they have always been. Certainly not as the should be in addressing her growing need for guidance through the turbulence of puberty. But notwithstanding her emotional development which isn't always so obvious at puberty to an oblivious dad, other changes such as the physiological in his daughter ought to be glaring enough for him to respond to!

If he happens to be a man knowledgeable about science then what a real shame! No! Then it should be inexcusable! A complete dereliction of his fatherly responsibility.

 He ought not to live in denial. Conversations may be awkward at first but it needs to go beyond what she shouldn't be doing. Talks of censorship and 'protecting' his little girl from the 'evil' out there? Really? That should not even factor in their conversation!!

 Daddy needs to wake up and real soon too! Because as some families have learnt the painful and hard way there is potentially a far greater danger to the now maturing little girl if she stumbles into puberty only armed with her naivety! I mean when she is not supported with the knowledge and appropriate information!!

Somebody needs to please alert her daddy to the following in case he has missexd it:

❗️In the last two to three years now  a sleeping tigress of passion has been aroused in his little girl. 

❗️During this period she has experienced puberty with such a wealth of hormonal evolvement that has rewired her outlook ready to transition into womanhood.
❗️She is no longer your little girl in the sense of physiology and psychology.
❗️Daddy stop speaking to and addressing the innocent lamb/little girl in her.
❗️ Daddy start addressing her questions about the world you are a part of!

❗️ She wants to find out about boys, so be transparent and speak to her from your own evolvement.
❗️ Do not wait for her to find out first hand through experimenting.
❗️ Because if you do, it is likely to be an experiment overseen by a bad guy type!

❗️When a parent fails to speak to the stirring embodiment of hormones' that constantly send passion inducing chemical impulses  in their daughter Bad guy types can easily step in.

!They are the only ones of her age claiming to have the kind of answers she is yearning for.
❗️ Bad guy types exist is all ages. They may be emotionally immature themselves. But they have become streetwise enough to recognise the need in your daughter.
❗️So if you are a Daddy reading this or you know of any who needs to be hearing this! Please alert them to the potential danger their puberty transitioning daughter faces.

🔔Ask them to look really well....look further when gazing into 'their little girl's eyes and if they are transitioning into puberty perhaps this daddy will care to notice a bridled tigress of passion that is a part of her, which she is perhaps becoming increasingly aware of during puberty.

A daddy's silence and what he leaves unsaid is the inroad that bad guy types seek
access to. Because bad guy types have learnt to recognise their potential victims. They can spot a growing emotionally naive girl,  desperate for answers! so caught up in the curiosity surrounding them,. It is this nature almost biological need to understand, to know, to explore that the bad guy types look out for.

This blog is the chronicling of a frequently  occuring phenomenon among puberty transitioning girls. They are vulnerable and  this often leads to tragic events. The rate of adult women of all ages who have been victims of this very predictable pattern of events attests to this.
In a lot of cases, parents and guardians often miss the signs. This may be occuring Dear Daddy or mummy, my message to you is that there may be a tragedy of significant emotional proportions about to happen in your own family. Something that could affect your child's mental health for most of their adult life.

You Daddy, or mummy  are about to loose your little girl on the altar of self violation unless you become more of a skillful therapist. carefully prepared from an unsuspecting source. So begin and take a very close look at the innocent rose under your very nose.
Begin speaking not only into the lamb in your daughter's  personality symbolised by the look of innocence in your 'little girl' but speak to the unbridled tigress of passion that is also being stirred up in her mind(to be continued).

'Bad Guys' and why they are every Princess' Guilty Pleasure Part 1

When daddy sees his little girl at the door he sees an adorable sweet and precious but unique human individual. This perfect almost flawless individual, at least in the eyes of  a daddy incentivises him to do everything within his ability and some more to provide for her and to protect her.

Daddy's Little Girl, the Untamed Tigress within and The Lamb Seen in her eyes

Daddy's little girl may be 4,5, or 6 years of age. At the age she is very thrilled to have a doting Dad who is so 'large' he fills her dreams. He is the king who adores his little girl unconditionally and selflessness with all the human love and protectiveness he can muster. Everyday he stirs out of bed and rises into his working daily routine, navigating interpersonal complexities, he always looks forward to coming back to the sweet angelic welcome, from his little girl, 'Daddy I have missed you', 'Daddy what did you get me from the shops' and  Daddy eventually ends his day in dream land lulled to sleep with the melodious ring of 'Daddy I love you' after reading his little girl and his little boy a bedtime story. As Daddy goes to retire he cannot imagine even heaven being as wonderful as this.
He knows that 'his little girl' , his beautiful princess must be an angel in human form. He breaths a prayer constantly asking for the Creator to preserve this relationship between him and his little girl and her sibling/s for a lifetime. He knows if that prayer is answered, he would want nothing, or lack nothing. That is all the motivation he is ever going to need to upscale every life challenge in his way of building the the security, engaging in the responsibilities which come with being a provider, protector and all that comes with it in the small print within an unfolding future.

Years go by and Daddy's little girl continues to evolve gracefully from one 12 month season to the next one. As she matures in self awareness, from nursery to primary life unfolds. One day she returns from school and has a rather interesting conversation with Daddy that mummy had often alerted him was inevitable. Mummy had said, she is growing and would soon no longer perceive herself as your little girl🤔. Daddy was amused because he interpreted this as mummy way of say she wanted more of his attention😂😂 or rather wished she had been more of her own 'daddy's little girl' during childhood. 😜
Historically mummy had also been a daddy's little girl once and so daddy could not work out why she would be anticipating a scenario in which the current dynamic will change.🤔🤔. Because this perception coming from mummy is puzzling, Daddy adds it to the growing list of equally puzzling list of statements coming from what he generally perceives as the female mind, a treasure trove of puzzles🤔🤔