Issues affecting children of marriages that break up!(Part 3)

Contd from Part 2: I need to clarify my intentions for writing on this subject by stating that I AM NOT PREPARING FOR A PLANNED REMARRIAGE! I may be separated, but I have only been so, for about thirteen months! GOD FORBID THAT, SUCH A THING OCCURS! BUT EVEN IF MY WIFE AND I, 'GO OUR SEPARATE WAYS', THAT WOULDN'T END THE PURPOSE OF OUR UNION! Marriages can go through difficulties, or pass through the 'for worse'phase! That might mean either a mutually agreed or unilaterally initiated 'separation'. In some cases, SAD AND PAINFUL as this may be, such acts are 'legally' implemented. The 'D' word attempts to shatter the 'dream' union: Divorce!

Just like a number of folks in my situation, I AM NOT IN DENIAL OF THAT POSSIBILITY! However, in reflecting on such a 'worse case scenario' I have anticipated what my response would be. Based on my faith in Jesus Christ, His Holy Scriptures, my personal convictions after studying scriptural doctrine; the pattern Jesus Christ implemented as reported in the Gospel stories here is my response:

If I entered into a remarriage, BASED ON A WORSE CASE SCENARIO OF MY MARRIAGE ENDING UP IN DIVORCE,I am aware of the following difficulties:
a) First of all, I will be 'ejecting' in midflight, from the purpose of our union. I believe marriages have a purpose which continues even after this worse case scenario.
b)As traumatic as a Divorce could be, remarriage, resulting from my own effort to become rehabilitated from the scars of the relationship will usually lead to regret. This is due to the likelihood, that I would enter into another relationship with the 'burden' of my unhealed condition! IF I FEEL ADEQUATELY REHABILITATED OR HEALED, THEN THE FIRST TEST IS INITIATING RECONCILIATION, RESTORATION OF MY MARRIAGE! Obviously, under certain circumstances, this isn't possible.Which builds a more compelling case for celibacy, than for remarriage.

c)The issue of remaining celibate, in my situation has always been an option I have considered. In reading the Pauline epistle 1 Corinthians Chapter 7, the writer also strongly preaches the option of celibacy. The language he uses are mainly as if to highlight the principle that Celibacy and reconciliation to a spouse ought to be the options for consideration, instead of remarriage! I WHOLEHEARTEDLY AGREE THAT, THIS IS AN OPTION WHICH DOES NOT APPLY TO EVERYONE. SO I DO NOT FEEL, IT IS FAIR FOR OTHERS TO USE MY EXPERIENCE AS A CASE FOR DIRECT PRACTICAL APPLICATION TO THEIR INDIVIDUAL SITUATION. PERSONALLY, I DO NOT HAVE ANY REMARRIAGE PROSPECTS OR OPTIONS.

ON THE DELICATE ISSUE OF MARRIAGE, JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF HIGHLIGHTS THE FACT THAT IT IS FOR THOSE TO WHOM THE SAYING IS GIVEN BY GOD.

THE MESSAGE VERSION TRANSLATION OF MATTHEW 19:12:

BUT JESUS SAID, ''NOT EVERYONE IS MATURE ENOUGH TO LIVE A MARRIED LIFE. IT REQUIRES A CERTAIN APTITUDE AND GRACE. MARRIAGE ISN'T FOR EVERYONE. SOME, FROM BIRTH SEEMINGLY, NEVER GIVE MARRIAGE A THOUGHT. OTHERS NEVER GET ASKED-OR ACCEPTED. AND SOME DECIDE NOT TO GET MARRIED FOR KINGDOM REASONS. BUT IF YOU ARE CAPABLE OF GROWING INTO THE LARGENESS OF MARRIAGE, DO IT.''

Question? What about those in a remarriage kind of situation? Are they condemned? No, not my view! I have identified that position in a previous reflection on my fb page as the theological legalist's position. In order to read what I have shared, you would need to go to my face book wall, to read the blog
'What God Has Put Together....' From my Tenth Wedding Anniversary Reflections.(Part 2) and
'WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER' PART 3(From my Tenth Wedding Anniversary Reflections)

TO BE CONTINUED IN PART 4


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