Issues affecting children of marriages that break up!(Part 2)

Continued from Part 1: If mum and dad are no longer 'doing family' for each other's sake, whatever compromises they enter into is only a fraagile truce! It won't be of any lasting benefit to the children(unless purposefully done to uphold the element of the marriage covenant). It is at best a Civil Contract, on a simliar league as a loosely binding pact, either of them, could form with a third party. When a fragile truce breaks, the effects are worse , than if there hadn't been a truce in the first place!

John, what are you suggesting? That mum and dad not make any attempts to get along? I am not trying to undermine, any inclination towards preserving a consensus of civility between each other! However, I am suggesting that mum decides, 'unilaterally', that she is going to be an agent of peace and tranquility! That Dad decides, unilaterally, he would pursue peace! I am also saying that mum and dad resist any compromises , that fall short of the original intention of the relationship! That the two shall be one. I AM AWARE THAT STATEMENTS LIKE THE ONES I HAVE JUST MADE WOULD HAVE TO BE CLARIFIED! PLEASE CONTINUE READING TO OBTAIN A CLEARER PICTURE OF WHAT I AM TRYING TO DESCRIBE!

When the two, both mum and dad are determined to pursue peace towards others and not indulge in strife, a degree of tranquility and security will prevail! Inspite of the dysfunctional nature or the state of dysfunction within their relationship ! Hopefully, an indirect result of 'prayer generated change'can bring about a latent effect within their situation. Yes,positive results!It only takes one of them praying or others praying for them,for healing to be a)effected in them individually,and b)through each other. Question: How is this going to benefit their children?

Children of divorced or separated parents want more than compromises between mum and dad!Their ultimate desire, which is a good reflection of their need, is for the healing and restoration of their parent's relationship.PERSONALLY, I BELIEVE A DEGREE OF WHOLENESS CAN OCCUR,EVEN IF BOTH PARENTS END UP GOING THEIR SEPARATE WAYS! And sometimes, that is exactly what happens! Atleast this is the case in a growing number of real life scenarios. I admit, this is not the ideal! However, the non-ideal is becoming a growing occurrence. It cannot simply be ignored, it must be commented upon. It must be responded to! THIS IS ONE OF THE REASONS FOR REFLECTIONS LIKE THIS ONE.

Just like I have pointed out above, in a growing number of cases,parents end up going their separate ways! This creates genuine theological and doctrinal issues, which may never be resolved within particular church denominations! However,families existed before denominations of churches! FAMILIES WOULD NEED TO MOVE FORWARD AS A UNIT, EVEN WHEN INDIVIDUALS IN THAT UNIT ARE WRITTEN OFF BY ONE THEOLOGICAL EMPHASIS OR THE OTHER!

In conclusion to part 2: I am determined in my reflections here, not to stall at individual doctrinal positions about marriage breakdown!As a result, I am adopting the position that,true healing, can be evident in a relationship, even if both parties are never Restored in their relationship as 'Husband and wife'! AND IF THEY END UP IN A REMARRIAGE SITUATION, ALTHOUGH THEIR REMARRIAGE TO ANOTHER PARTNER IS PREMEDITATED!
(CONTINUED IN PART 3)


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